3 Quick Tips to Get Your Ex Back

December 5, 2008 by admin
Filed under Dating Relationships Advice

When the man you love stops loving you back, it’s easy to feel lost. Being in a long term relationship makes it easy to forget yourself and forgo ‘I’ for ‘we’. Once the relationship around which you were building your reflection is gone, there may seem like there is nothing left to stand on. If breaking up is hard to do, getting dumped is insufferable. Usually, the knee jerk reaction wants to get back together. You can do this with a little effort and possibly succeed in getting over it and moving on.

First things first. Don’t fall apart.

You may want to melt into a soppy pile of pity, but don’t. The best thing you can do to increase your chances of winning back either your love or your dignity is keeping yourself together. Take this time to re-evaluate and recompose yourself. Now that he’s gone, get rid of all the other bad habits you had in your life as well. Get a new hairdo, a new outfit, a new hobby. Remembering yourself now is important. Start taking as good care of you as you did him. He will, of course, notice. Keep in mind, however, this is for you and no one else. You want to look good and feel good for yourself and no one else.

Get off the couch.

Get out. Exercise, shop, party; whatever you want in moderation. The worst thing you could do is succumb to the urge to crawl into a bottle or pint and cry. He’s not crying. Go have a good time with friends. You are single again. Your girls missed you. Shake it harder, flirt with a stranger, show off your new you. A little change of pace is a nice break from the ordinary. If your ex happens to see you out on the dance floor looking good and shaking it, that little tinge of jealousy might help him eat his humble pie.

Let him watch, but from a distance.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all. And spending this time without you may be the push he needs to rethink how much he needs you. Let him reflect on your relationship whilst you do the same. Waiting for his phone to ring will be just enough time each day. Sitting on your rump mourning him isn’t going to be the way to pass the time. Staying active and involved will help you deal with your break up and find a productive use of your newly found free time.

You can get him back.

You can do catty girl things or, you can move on and see if it’s meant to be. No matter how much you love someone , you cannot put your life on hold for them if they do not want to be a part. Follow these three guidelines and regardless of whether or not you get back together, you will be grateful for the break up.